tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post1047823842873575860..comments2023-09-30T11:08:51.668-05:00Comments on Psychosomatic Wit: NEWSFLASH #8Jeffhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16060441484392165488noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-61154220238757586752007-07-27T10:18:00.000-05:002007-07-27T10:18:00.000-05:00Thanks so much, Freelance.Thanks so much, Freelance.Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060441484392165488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-6610422387289004262007-07-27T02:29:00.000-05:002007-07-27T02:29:00.000-05:00Lovely blog. Keep up the gud wuk!Cheers!Lovely blog. Keep up the gud wuk!<BR/><BR/>Cheers!Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01798037687768324029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-54111175906983232412007-07-26T07:22:00.000-05:002007-07-26T07:22:00.000-05:00Steph: I look forward to reading it. It is stran...Steph: I look forward to reading it. It is strange how waves of thoughts channel together like that.Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060441484392165488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-74821418291186538072007-07-24T20:39:00.000-05:002007-07-24T20:39:00.000-05:00Jeff, Its funny (funny interesting, not funny haha...Jeff, Its funny (funny interesting, not funny haha) that you mention your love relationship history because that is actually what my next post is about. When I'm finished with my "break". Which is turning out to be a lot harder than I had expected... :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-47154242127549487002007-07-24T09:11:00.000-05:002007-07-24T09:11:00.000-05:00Hoosiergirl: Too bad that I am not a great swimme...Hoosiergirl: Too bad that I am not a great swimmer, eh? ;) <BR/><BR/>I am sure your kids are great so you would miss them if I took them - maybe not the same year, but you would miss them eventually. ;)<BR/><BR/>Steal away with the NEWSFLASH. Immitation is the most sincerest form of flattery. I am not sure I really believe that, but it works in this instance.<BR/><BR/>Rhea: If you take the house, I will throw in the mower. You will need it then, anyway. If you are mobile enough to move to Indiana, I will take a loss on the house for you. ;)<BR/><BR/>Mammamia: Thanks and welcome! Your comments will always be appreciated. I will take your thoughts into consideration.<BR/><BR/>Jerry: I would love to be able to "build" on the relationship. The building of it has not seemed to work on her end so far. Every morning, when the sun comes up, it seems that someone stole the foundation we built the night before while we were sleeping.Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060441484392165488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-20062589163306191422007-07-24T09:04:00.000-05:002007-07-24T09:04:00.000-05:00Kristen: I am not so sure that the American peopl...Kristen: I am not so sure that the American people are as smart as we would like them to be. ;) Thanks for your well-wishes.<BR/><BR/>Random Magus: Thanks for your prayers. Marriages are odd institutions indeed. From where I stand, they are kind of over-rated. ;)<BR/><BR/>Michelle: Thanks. I am sure things will end up the way they are supposed to end up.Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060441484392165488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-6093715474366429122007-07-24T09:01:00.000-05:002007-07-24T09:01:00.000-05:00Friend of God: Thanks for your encouragement. Ye...Friend of God: Thanks for your encouragement. Yeah, I am still plugging away.<BR/><BR/>Laura: Oh yeah, I am 20!! lol I also saw the TFB-M interview on Larry King. She wore me out seeing her fight for every sentence.<BR/><BR/>Thanks Mother Hen: I can't have too many prayers.Jeffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16060441484392165488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-13504774422371719322007-07-24T02:24:00.000-05:002007-07-24T02:24:00.000-05:00I'm with Mammamia on this one.MrsWrite and I were ...I'm with Mammamia on this one.<BR/><BR/>MrsWrite and I were doing a lot of fighting. She is a real go-go do-do kind of gal and I'm a homebody. She likes to change things up and I like things to be the same.<BR/><BR/>Then one day she wanted to do a bunch of projects in the house. She expected a fight. I didn't fight, I agreed.<BR/><BR/>The next day, the projects had grown to a bigger level. I didn't fight, I agreed.<BR/><BR/>The third day she wanted to plan a trip. I didn't fight, I agreed.<BR/><BR/>On that day, I also praised her and told her how much I appreciate her initiative.<BR/><BR/>The next day, I was having a bad day, and she was sympathetic. I again told her how much I appreciated her.<BR/><BR/>Day after that, she took the initiative to be supportive of my work situation. I thanked her and told her how much I appreciated her.<BR/><BR/>And then - not suddenly, but built upon the string of positive moments - we were more affectionate and romantic. Fun came back into our home. The atmosphere transformed from combative into supportive. We no longer shied away from each other because we instinctively knew the other wanted to support and appreciate us.<BR/><BR/>What I'm saying here is that there is a way to put the breaks on any descent and turn things around. It just takes one person willing to stand in, be vulnerable and change things.<BR/><BR/>take a vicious cycle and turn it into a positive cycle. The good can gain momentum just as easily as the bad.<BR/><BR/>Stay strong by being open :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-67567498238328275662007-07-24T00:06:00.000-05:002007-07-24T00:06:00.000-05:00I'm sorry, I don't know you at all so I hope I'm n...I'm sorry, I don't know you at all so I hope I'm not prying, but I couldn't resist stopping by after the comment you left on Kristen's today. Your pain was palpable in a few short words.<BR/><BR/>I don't know your wife, so I could be totally off, but as a woman who has actually said something similar to, "I don't have any motivation to make this work," to her husband, I thought I might offer a possible translation.<BR/><BR/>When I said it, it was my dramatic way of screaming for help in not so many words. It meant I'm emotionally tired. It meant sit down, hold me, tell me why you fell in love with me in the first place and why I'm still worth loving today. It meant I'm scared and I don't know where to begin teaching you to understand me and my needs probably because I don't know what they are myself and I feel hopeless. <BR/><BR/>An expression of understanding into her deep hopes and fears could go a long way into making her feel safe enough to try. Good luck.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11050630762421604324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-63058249968164237112007-07-23T18:05:00.000-05:002007-07-23T18:05:00.000-05:00I can't use the riding mower, but I'll take the ho...I can't use the riding mower, but I'll take the house.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-66604401820633368372007-07-23T17:53:00.000-05:002007-07-23T17:53:00.000-05:00Hi Jeff....Thanks for stopping by. I'm sorry to h...Hi Jeff....<BR/>Thanks for stopping by. I'm sorry to hear things aren't going well for you. As Dory says in "Finding Nemo", just keep swimming!!!<BR/><BR/>I'm going to steal your Newsflash idea, if you don't mind.<BR/><BR/>If you want some kids, come see me.....you can have some of mine!!<BR/>(ha, ha)<BR/><BR/>J.Jodihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07090159134556212125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-10859237370000362102007-07-23T17:21:00.000-05:002007-07-23T17:21:00.000-05:00So sorry to hear things are not good, Jeff.Prayers...So sorry to hear things are not good, Jeff.<BR/><BR/>Prayers, best wishes, lucky horseshoes.. whatever I can throw in the pot.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02284595314525240584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-38347407906268258462007-07-23T17:11:00.000-05:002007-07-23T17:11:00.000-05:00Wish you the best of luck at your job.As far as ma...Wish you the best of luck at your job.<BR/>As far as marriage goes, all marriages have this phase when you feel that it's just going to snap, and then you take stock and decide whether it's worth saving, trying to foresee some of the future with or without and after you decide, whether to ride out he rough patch or to walk away, things become much easier.<BR/>My prayers are with youAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10719992587281654845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-39900875300942790902007-07-23T17:07:00.000-05:002007-07-23T17:07:00.000-05:00'If a candidate has a strong faith, then let it sh...'If a candidate has a strong faith, then let it shine from his/her own presence'<BR/><BR/>Amen, and well said. What's up with this rent-a-religion fiasco? The American people aren't stupid and can see right through the fakeness.<BR/><BR/>This was a great post, but it broke my heart a little :( I sincerely hope everything works out for the best in your marriage.goddessdivinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03649750585495782767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-86318559057100028402007-07-23T16:34:00.000-05:002007-07-23T16:34:00.000-05:00I still keep you in my prayer Jeff.I still keep you in my prayer Jeff.The Real Mother Henhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226727195920798035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-23638047358259521162007-07-23T16:02:00.000-05:002007-07-23T16:02:00.000-05:00you have so much going on. i wish i could give you...you have so much going on. i wish i could give you a wave of a wand to make it all bright, perfect and happy...sorry , still on the disney mindset. seriously, i am sorry for the crap going on.<BR/>a belated happy birthday to you too. was it the 20th? so is my guy's.<BR/>we caught a glimpse of TFB-M's last interview with Larry King from a few days ago and found it to be frightenly sad. it was too much for my husband who saw his giant of a father waste away to s skeletal shell just like she did. it was a nice tribute you wrote. <BR/>take care.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868536354957624922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-75731014245665210772007-07-23T15:53:00.000-05:002007-07-23T15:53:00.000-05:00Funny that the democratic senators are playing an ...Funny that the democratic senators are playing an enlightened game of Hypocrisy. its crazy. Though there is a chance they learnt it from some ministers of the gospel.<BR/><BR/>Yeah a relationship is not easy but i think something in you still wants to make it work. If it helps at all, talk to your wife..tell her how much you value the relationship and love her and want your marriage to work. I'm sure you've probably done that many times but dude, blurt it out again. you might get lucky. Hope is invaluable...and a woman does need to be reassured as much as possible..its amazing how easily a woman can feel insecure and sometimes lose hope.. Either way, you are the man and you can make this marriage work with God on your side<BR/><BR/>cheersFriend of Godhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08674456539940630194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-30351549955463596892007-07-23T15:00:00.000-05:002007-07-23T15:00:00.000-05:00Thanks, Sayre. I am sure it will work out the way...Thanks, Sayre. I am sure it will work out the way it is supposed to.<BR/><BR/>Jerry: Thanks for your prayers. I really don't want to get into too much detail in a public blog. I didn't mean to give just one side. I don't want anyone to side with me. I don't want sides at all. She did tell me that last night that she didn't have any motivation to make it work.<BR/><BR/>Nikki: Thanks for your concern and thoughts. It is appreciated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-32905218017968175052007-07-23T14:09:00.000-05:002007-07-23T14:09:00.000-05:00I'm totally desperate for a riding lawn mower. Ho...I'm totally desperate for a riding lawn mower. How much do you want for it? I've got 7 bucks...want it?<BR/><BR/>...on a serious note.<BR/><BR/>Jeff, I am deeply sorry about your marriage. I hope you get it all sorted out for the best one way or another...I really do.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you.Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09959561240011073465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-54489662070212568472007-07-23T12:22:00.000-05:002007-07-23T12:22:00.000-05:00Have you guys gone together to counseling yet, eit...Have you guys gone together to counseling yet, either at church or with a therapist?<BR/><BR/>I understand we only get to see your side of the story here on the blog, but what are her complaints/sticking points/ expectations/disappointments?<BR/><BR/>Does she feel any responsibility? Is there a desire on her part to make it work?<BR/><BR/>I'll be praying for you guys.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26615740.post-87394306306899564622007-07-23T11:52:00.000-05:002007-07-23T11:52:00.000-05:00You are under a lot of pressure, my friend. New b...You are under a lot of pressure, my friend. New boss and having to exude professionalism when your heart is aching so much - it's tough. <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry your marriage isn't working out as you had imagined it would. From what you have written, it sounds as if you've given it the best you have and it still isn't working. Marriage should be a partnership, with mutual love, mutual respect and it should benefit BOTH parties. I spent too many years in an unhappy marriage, where my husband was the dictator and I was the subordinate. And the funny thing was, neither one of us was happy. I finally had to be the one with the guts to say, "This isn't working," and walk out. It isn't easy, even when you're getting the short end of the stick - especially if you believe that marriage is for keeps and you need to do whatever it takes to keep it together. There are times when it just doesn't work. I was in such a situation for 7 years - and I wish I had that time back. I'm not saying leave, but I am saying that if you decide that it is what's right for you and your wife that it does NOT make you a failure. Just two people who weren't right for each other.<BR/><BR/>My prayers are with you and your wife as you face these questions together or alone.<BR/><BR/>Hope you make some money on your garage sale!!!Sayrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16350593991157139017noreply@blogger.com