Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Speaking of yodeling. . .

I guess the airing of the marriage/divorce thing wasn't such a good idea. That is why they are gone now. Things take time to get over and I already knew that at some point I was going to have to "man up" about it. I guess hearing it from someone else was something I wasn't ready to deal with. It doesn't make the comments wrong, it is just a timing thing, I guess. I need time to work through things. However, that's okay and it is on me. If I don't' want specific feedback about something I write, I should not post it or at least disable the comment component of the post. So, I just decided to remove it. This shouldn't be interpreted as a hostile act or that I have hard feelings for anyone that has commented. That just isn't the case. I take full responsibility and all are welcome to read and comment on whatever I write about.

That being stated, it is a little difficult to write about much else right now. In life, we have ups and downs. The more sensitive types like me have a hard time thinking about other things when the power of the situation is still too new, or unresolved. So, I think about it. I write about it. Just not here, not now. Those of you that have been around here for a while may remember that I used to take time off from blogging when I was going through rough spots. That was an instinct I probably should have listened to this time.

How 'bout those presidential campaigns, eh?

9 comments:

The Real Mother Hen said...

First of all, I'm genuinely concerned about your wellbeing and I wish you all the best.

Secondly, wise choice to remove those posts Jeff. It is ok to vent when your life is down the rabbit hole, but it is a different matter if you are bitter and think the world owes you. It doesn't owe you. No one owes you in fact, regardless how much sacrifice you think you've made. I have seen plenty of bloggers who just can't pick themselves up after a divorce and I don't wish that upon you, or anyone for that matter.

Now, I do think McCain is old, very old, and his wifey is bit scary. No one can be that "flawless" so please give me a break.

Sayre said...

I think a break is a good idea. As much as I like (if that's the right word) reading about your thoughts and your life, some things are terribly personal and perhaps shouldn't be shared with the world at large.

If you feel the urge to write something for us, tell us how awful your renter is or what's up with the dogs or what kind of car you're working on now.

And take care of you, whatever that takes.

Jeff said...

Mother Hen: I don't think the world owes me anything. The only thing I am owed is what has been promised to me.

Sayre: Probably right. Sometimes I think of those people who visit here in a different light than I should. Thanks for reminding me that we are really just all strangers. Familiar, but still strangers. I should be a little more guarded.

HollyGL said...

Just do whatever feels right to you, Jeff - which is exactly what you're doing. This is your personal struggle to share or not as you see fit. I know what you mean about forgetting that we are all basically strangers. ...but I will say that my blog readers know me way better than most people in my "real" life.

For a Presidential pick-me-up, just hop on over to my blog! :)

Jaquandor said...

One option, if you feel that blogging helps, is a private blog. Blogger has those available -- you create a new blog and set it up so that only invited readers can read it (they have to sign in with a Google account to confirm that they're invited).

I admired what you were writing here. I don't argue with your deleting it, but I sure do admire it.

kristen said...

I say we do what works for us. If you don't want to blog about it, then don't.

I'm still wishing you the best of luck with everything. ;-)

Jeff said...

Stephanie: Thanks. It is a confusing time. I don't know what to think half the time.

Jaquandor: Yes, I thought about the private blog thing. So many options . . . I didn't delete my posts, just took them off of the blog. I could restore them in a heartbeat. They are water under the bridge at this point, so I wouldn't see the point. Something tells me that I need to blog with no holds barred; I guess I will just have to develop a tougher skin or respond to feedback with the same no holds barred mentality.

Kristen: Thanks. And thanks for thinking of me.

Jeff said...

Folks: I know some of you mean well with your tough love approach. However, to be quite honest with you, there is an appropriate time for that kind of help and it is usually after an appropriate grieving period takes place.

I promised myself that I wouldn't take it personally. That is why I removed those posts. However, as I am still working through it, I am sure I am going to post more of what is exactly on my mind. That will also include any feedback to your feedback. If it offends, do like me and don't take it personally. Depending on how life is for you now, you should be able to handle that better than I can.

In addition, the man up and get over it thing is filed away. I understand the point of view. Try this: wouldn't it be nice to think that you might be married to someone who takes his marriage as seriously I do. Just a thought.

Charles said...

Honestly Jeff, I removed some posts I did about my father from my blog. We are human, sometimes you have to do what you gotta do.