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Beginnings and New Beginnings
My mom and dad came from humble beginnings and both were
hard workers. There wasn’t really a time
when I remembered them having a loving marriage. However, back then there was a duty to kids
and they had five of them. Until I was
three years old, our family lived in a humble house my folks rented in a
working class neighborhood.
I don’t really remember too much about my life then, but the
fragments I do remember include the little dog my elderly neighbor had next
door. I also remember having an oak tree in
the small backyard that my brother liked to climb on and get on top of the
garage that was connected to the alley. He would throw acorns at me and anyone or anything else that might cause an uproar. I also remember putting pennies on the train tracks that were just
across the street and gather them flattened.
When I was three, we moved into a house that my folks had
built in a new subdivision. Neither my
father nor mother had much of an education. However, back then, you could
manage to build and move into a new house if you worked hard and remained
frugal. The American Dream was alive and
well and my folks were full participants.
Today, there is no way my parents would be able to build a house -
probably not even buy one. When people
talk about “the good ol’ days,” this is what they were talking about. It isn’t as much as a myth as some would have
you believe.
I was proud of that house. It was in a new part of town and was built in the middle of an apple
orchard. There were fields and trees and
woods all around. The house was also a
rock’s throw from the elementary school.
Happy times.
There weren’t very many people in my neighborhood when we
first moved in. However, across the
street was a family that also had a number of kids. With those kids, we had friends that turned
into adversaries and then to friends again.
They lived a rural existence and I liked spending time over there
mostly. Funny, my mother, now disabled
and widowed, still lives in our house.
The neighbors across the street are still there, too – well, the mother
of that clan, also a widow, remains there. Of course her kids have mostly
moved on but our lives intersect every now and then.
It was these roots that should be credited or blamed for forging the core of the man I am today.