Maybe It's the Meds

My wife and I haven't been talking (much) for a couple of days. We say what is necessary, but we don't conversate. I first noticed that there was something wrong with her on Saturday morning. I can't put my finger on it, but she gave off a different vibe. I asked her if there was something wrong - big mistake. My wife gets offended if I ask her if something's wrong. I don't know why. It is the darndest thing. Anyway, that triggered off the silence from her side.

On Sunday, when we got home from church, I repeated my mistake but I clarified, "What is wrong - I am only asking you this because you haven't talked to me the past couple of days and that was a giveaway to me that there is something wrong."

She responded that she only hasn't talked to me because I "keep asking" her what is wrong - which is a lie. I asked her once. She doesn't like to talk about things. Talking it out is something she detests. That is why I have been silent. I am not an "elephant in the room" type of person. If there is an elephant in the room, not only do I want to talk about it, but I want to get the blamed thing out of there before it crushes the furniture and soils the carpet.

This morning as I was taking care of the dogs, she came into the kitchen with a distressed look on her face. I thought she had been dreaming or something. I asked her what was wrong (before I had a chance to think) and she told me that she feels like she is going to throw up and pass out. She thinks it is a side-effect of the medicine she just started taking FRIDAY! She asked me to call her boss and tell her that she wasn't coming in today which I did.

I am thinking now that the meds might be the reason that she has been WRONG in this fight. Maybe it is the meds. I hope so; the alternative is certainly no fun to think about.


Anonymous said...

Medications can have unexpected side-effects - like the crabbiness or nausea that your wife is having. She needs to see her doctor and ask about it.

I hope that's what's really been going on - it sounds like you guys are having a rough patch, a medically induced one, but one none-the-less.

kimber said...

I do hope it's only the meds!

I'm not one to talk out my problems right away (I like a bit of time to get my thoughts in order) but my husband likes to get things out in the open, and for the first year or so of our marriage, it was difficult to find a balance in our communication. Best wishes on getting everything adjusted and back in order: meds, communication, and all the good stuff!

Bon & Mal Mott said...

This is just a thought, Jeff - you might try approaching it from a direction similar to this - "Honey, I love you, and if there's anything that I can do to help you, please let me know."

Good luck.
Bonnie and Walt